Reading this blog leaves me pondering many thought...

2008-08-14T18:20:00.000-07:00

Reading this blog leaves me pondering many thoughts and questions...here they are:

What IS non-violence as way of life?

Violence describes behavioral strategies people choose to get their needs met. (NVC philosophy)

What are those needs? How can they be met differently? What do we do when our needs are conflicting with one another? What do we do when our strategies to get those needs met, are conflicting?

We move toward our focus, thus I prefer not to use the word violence, even as part of "non-violence".

Difference is a fact of life - without which all of life would be homogenious - vanilla.

What strategies are we taught, directly and indirectly, to live harmoniously with difference????

In specific reponse to some passages of the blog:

We CAN heal the hurts of the world through reconcilialtion and healing. Apology and forgiveness have a roll yet there are some considerations, energetically, that effect the power and impact of an apology and/or forgiveness.

If there has been a hurt, a tragedy, a trauma etc. we can say that one party/person was the receiver/victim and the other the perpetrator/cause. When the "victim" says "I forgive you" it puts them in a place of ownership of the injustice/wrongdoing/act/etc. Yet the pain and suffering was at the hand of the perpetrator, thus the perp owns it. So energetically, a victim offering forgiveness is not whole and complete. If they SAY, "I forgive you" then they will go on in their life still owning and therefore carrying/holding a piece that is not theirs to carry, they will not feel totally free and better. (this perspective comes from 10 years of studying, practicing, facilitating and experiencing "Systemic Constellation Work")

What it might sound like instead is, the perp states: "I see that what I have done has caused you great pain; you have been carrying the burden of that pain for a long time; the burden is not yours to carry, it is mine." The victim might respond by saying "yes and please take it back." The perp then readily, wantingly "takes it back" symbolically. As the two parties are doing this, they look deep into each other's eyes...the eyes of the soul...for the soul wants order, it is always seeking harmony. Harmony and order occur when all and everything is in its rightful place. The verbal and symbolic exchange above, moves people and ownership to their rightful place allowing tension to be released and harmony to exist.

Where does this all begin? With the first "exclusion"...PK lost her place with the organization. This begins entanglements, hurts, trauma, pain, suffering. When it goes on without acknowledgment it can become a systemic issue that is passed on for generations (in families, cultures, nations, organizations, communities, all systems) When we are excluded from our families, from our nations, from our religion, from our friends, from our home lands, from our jobs, from living the childhood we are ment to live or the innocence (taken via abuse) we are out of ballance, our of harmony and it grows worse with time without acknowledgement and ownership.

Systemic Constellation Work (SCW) has taught me the value of power of acknowledging 'what is', then 'owning' each person's part and contribution and finding each person's rightful place. When this occurs, people are free to thrive in their current day lives.

So the question then is, what if both parties are unwilling to enter into this exchange or unable due to distance, time or death? SCW uses 'representatives' and the healing knows no time or distance. It is phenomenological. The representatives will reveal energetic dynamics in the system that are not accessable by the consciousness or known history of the system.

So when PK says, "Many of the ills of the world were created by people who are no longer here. Yet, the tragedies of the world still permeate our air space." She is right on...the ills move with us from generation to generation and permeate a system. So some of our own current day pains were a result of injustices that occured with our ancestors... and through SCW and representatives, they can be healed and we can be relieved of the burdens.

PK writes, "There are those who will stand in that gap to close the circle of pain into one of healing. But, who will carry the “I’m sorry”? Who will stand for the hurt and pain in genuine remorse and supplication? Who will stand with me?" Representatives can and will stand; and as they do they will FEEL the energy of the those they represent. They will then BE those they represent and speak what needs to be said and the healing transpires. Just as you are visualizing PK. PK writes: "The spirit of it defies the gravity of any situation, no matter the hurt, no matter the pain. The spirit of it is to move forward to the reconciliation and healing of the world that needs to take place. If in this small ceremony of giving and receiving I believe that lives can change, so can each of you." And so it can be so, I have witnessed it and experienced it through SCW.

Acknowledge
Own
Take back
Give back
Be free.
And know that the deep emotions we long for to feel with saying "I'm sorry" and "I forgive you" will be felt, much deeper than when only those words are spoken.

With Love for you PK and the work that you do...
Sincerely,
Lisa Marie Main

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